noun: 1. a box or crate used as a makeshift stand by a public speaker 2. figurative a thing that provides an opportunity for someone to air their views publicly
Girls can be mean. As much as I hate to admit it, this is a very true statement. And I’ve had my experience with those mean girls too. For the most part, mean girls come around during those junior high and high school years, but it is sad to say that some of them are still mean when they become full-grown adults. After a recent conversation with a friend who was trying to deal in a Christ-like manner with some mean girls (who were adults), I found a website that proded me to write this blog.
I never really understood women (or men for that matter) who were just downright mean. Why would anyone intentionally hurt someone else’s feelings? There’s a myriad of reasons why girls and women are mean that can be boiled down to two familiar quotes: “Misery loves company” and “Hurting people hurt people.”
I’ve spent much of my adult life teaching young women how to deal with mean girls, and basically all my knowledge (based off experience) comes down these points:
- You are not responsible for others’ meaness, your only responsibility lies in how you handle it. (Proverbs 15:1)
- Pray for those who hurt you. (Matthew 5:44)
- Stand up for yourself but do it with love. (Ephesians 4:15)
- No matter what is said about you or done to you, the truth lies only in what God says about you. (Ephesians 2:10)
Here’s where the website comes in. Actually is a new movement among girls (and women too) that focuses on being kind and building others up. Not sure if the founder is a Christian but I’m sure she has very little time to be a mean girl with all the positivity she’s spreading. Check it out for yourself and become a part of of operation beautiful.
Ephesians 4:29 says “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” What a great motto to live by. It’s what our mother’s have always said, “If you can’t say something nice, then don’t say anything at all.”
Okay, I’m done now, I’ll get off my soapbox. By the way, have I told you lately how great each one of you are. Well if I haven’t then I just did.