Adoption reached our family this past year; we welcomed a new nephew. How it filled my heart to see him taken from an orphanage and given to my brother-in-law and sister-in-law. Their adoption story was finally ending and the novel of parenthood was beginning. An orphan finds a home; a woman becomes a mother, and a man finds himself a father.
Their story — like many others — was seen through the eyes of the waiting adoptive parents. A story that many of us are very familiar with, but in Patti Callahan Henry’s new book And Then I Found You, the adoption story is seen through the eyes of the biological mother.
Although many opinions can be formed about a woman who gives up her child, this book helps readers see the pain and agony of such a decision. A decision that doesn’t affect just the biological mother, but the aunts, uncles, and grandparents. They give up the child as well.
And Then I Found You’s plot and original point of view kept me turning pages. I felt the main character’s (Katie) pain as she made the choice and then suffered through its consequences for years. The future and the chance to meet her child was always further away than she wanted it to be. Katie’s story isn’t just about the loss of a child but also the loss of a childhood love and this is the story that pulls the reader into the depths of its plot.
Through this book, my eyes were opened to the heart of a birth mother who only did what was best for her child, then fought the guilt, who lived with the constant uncertainty of her child’s well-being, and dealt daily with the burden of empty arms. My heart was tendered towards her and others in her position.
This book is for you if you’ve been touched by the adoption process — no matter what level. And for those of you who simply like a good story, you’ll find one in And Then I Found You.